Even for adventurous men and women, things can start to get a little vanilla in the bedroom. There’s nothing wrong with this experience. You might even find your relationship has deepened in other personal ways. That being said, you don’t have to sacrifice fire and romance for intimacy. Sometimes, you really can have your cake and eat it too. To revitalize your sexual relationship, you should try to be open to trying new things. This can range from small additions to your routine to larger, more thrilling changes. It all depends on your comfort level.
Here are a few tips on how to spice up your sex life.
Something Old, Something New
If you haven’t bought any new negligee since the beginning of your relationship, it might be time for a shopping spree. Try to pique your partner’s interest with brand new sexy lingerie. Find something that makes you feel powerful, confident, and irresistible.
If you usually lean more toward babydoll or teddy lingerie, surprise your partner by switching it up with something like a wine lace bra, garter belt, and crotchless panty set. By breaking with tradition, you might find yourself more in the mood as well. Embrace your beautiful body. The more confident you feel, the more desirable you’ll be to your partner. Putting in that little bit of extra energy will show your partner how much you care about your mutual happiness.
Be Open to New Ideas
The idea of open relationships is becoming more and more popular these days. There’s less of a focus on monogamy, which some people believe takes the pressure off their long term relationships. Sleeping with new people can teach you new things that you and your partner can bring back to each other. It might make your sexual relationship with your long term partner surprisingly exciting—if you and your partner both agree to this (and feel good about this arrangement) of course. There should be some serious ground rules if you’re going to be sleeping with other people.
For example, safety precautions need to be put in place, as well as a discussion around whether it’s OK or not to develop an emotional attachment with your new partners. If you and your long term partner prefer to keep the emotional aspect between just the two of you, it might be a good idea to find your matches on sex apps. Through a sex app, you can pick someone who looks appealing to you without any strings attached. When you meet this person, make it clear this is a one-time exchange.
Using a sex app can give you and your partner the opportunity to actually explore your sexual orientation. You may find that your sexuality is more complex or fluid than you thought.
Play Your Own Way
An easy way to make things spicier between the sheets is with the introduction of sex toys. No two toys are alike, so you’ll need to do your research to find something that works for both of you. You and your partner can take an online sex toy quiz to see which toys best match your desires. You might even get the same quiz results, further proving your compatibility.
If you haven’t introduced toys into the bedroom before, it’s definitely a conversation you should have before just buying something you think looks fun. Your partner could be sensitive about using toys because it might make them feel like they’re not enough for you. Just explain that incorporating toys is a way to heighten the experience for both of you, and it can add a little more variety to an already exhilarating experience. If you’re worried about nosy neighbors sifting through your packages, go with a company that will send their product discreetly.
Most importantly, have fun and enjoy the journey!
